Railway Mission’s Liam Johnstone ponders whether this yearly tradition is helpful or harmful, and considers an alternative.
As the clock strikes midnight on New Year’s Eve, a wave of optimism sweeps across countless individuals worldwide. The air is filled with aspirations for change, self-improvement, and a fervent commitment to New Year’s resolutions. Yet, beneath the surface of this enthusiasm lies a pervasive issue – one that often goes unnoticed until the resolutions start crumbling: the toll these resolutions take on our mental health.
The tradition of setting resolutions stems from a desire for personal growth, whether it’s adopting healthier habits, pursuing ambitious goals, or shedding unwanted weight. However, the manner in which we approach these resolutions can inadvertently become a breeding ground for self-doubt, stress, and anxiety when the envisioned changes don’t materialise as expected.
The typical January scenario plays out predictably: gyms overflow with eager new members, self-help books fly off the shelves, and promises of a ‘new me’ echo through conversations. But as the initial excitement wanes and the reality of maintaining these resolutions sinks in, many find themselves grappling with a sense of failure and disappointment, their mental well-being taking a hit in the process.
This phenomenon is not a testament to individual shortcomings but rather a reflection of the inherent difficulty in altering long-standing behaviours and lifestyles. The pressure to adhere rigidly to resolutions sets an unrealistic standard, often leading to a cycle of negative self-perception when they inevitably falter.
Another way
However, amidst this yearly ritual of self-imposed expectations, an alternative perspective emerges – one that shifts the focus away from self-centric resolutions towards the powerful act of serving others.
Consider for a moment the transformative impact of redirecting our resolutions towards acts of kindness, empathy, and altruism. Instead of solely fixating on personal milestones, what if our resolutions revolved around making a positive difference in the lives of others?
Research and anecdotal evidence alike affirm that committing to actions benefiting others holds significant benefits for our mental health. Acts of kindness trigger the release of oxytocin, the ‘feel-good’ hormone, promoting feelings of happiness, and fulfilment, and reducing stress levels. Moreover, the sense of purpose derived from helping others fosters a healthier perspective on life and one’s own challenges.
The beauty of resolutions geared towards others lies in their inherent achievability. Unlike weight loss or strict lifestyle changes, the impact of altruistic resolutions isn’t measured by a number on a scale or a checklist of habits. Whether it’s volunteering, fostering meaningful connections, or supporting a charitable cause, these resolutions offer a sense of fulfilment and accomplishment irrespective of the outcome, simply by the act of engaging in them.
Additionally, these resolutions cultivate a sense of community and interconnectedness. They encourage empathy, understanding, and compassion—qualities that not only benefit those on the receiving end but also contribute significantly to our own mental and emotional wellbeing.
Imagine a New Year’s resolution to dedicate a few hours each week to mentoring a child, volunteering at a local shelter, or participating in initiatives that promote environmental sustainability. These commitments not only contribute positively to society but also provide a sense of purpose and fulfilment that transcends the fleeting nature of self-oriented goals.
Moreover, embracing resolutions centred on others creates a ripple effect. Acts of kindness have a way of inspiring others, fostering a collective spirit of goodwill and empathy, thereby creating a more compassionate and supportive community as a whole.
Positive impact
As we embark on a new year, let us reframe the narrative surrounding resolutions. Instead of burdening ourselves with the weight of unrealistic expectations, let us embrace the transformative power of empathy and kindness. By committing to actions that uplift others, we not only enhance our mental wellbeing but also contribute to a world that thrives on compassion and understanding. After all, the most meaningful resolutions aren’t just about changing ourselves but about positively impacting the world around us.
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